At the first sign of stress, you often hear people complain, What did I do to deserve this? says Dr. Cooper. The trouble is, feeling like a victim only increases feelings of stress and helplessness. Instead, focus on being proactive. If your flight gets canceled, dont wallow in self pity. Find another one. If your office is too hot or too cold, dont suffer in silence. Call the building manager and ask what can be done to make things more comfortable.