For decades, it seems, moms have been made to feel guilty about holding their babies too much. Ignore the critics and repeat after us:You cannot spoil a baby by holding her. Really. It s true. Babies who are held often and have their needs met right away are more likely to have higher self images and learn they are respected and worthy, says Linda C. Donovan, RN, MHA, IBCLC. So, even if you keep hearing people tell you not to do it, rest assured that holding your baby is a good and natural thing.