No one understands anyone 100%. You dont even understand your own self completely Men and women have different needs, values and interests. Men like to solve problems; they generally do not want to dwell on feelings, as this makes them feel weak and needy. Therefore, men bond by talking about facts or their successes. Women, on the other hand, bond by talking about their problems, frustrations and disappointments. Rather than advice, they generally just want a soothing, empathetic response, such as, I understand. Few men like to talk about their feelings at least, not for long. Unless he voluntarily supplies the information, do not ask your husband, How do you feel? He may take your question as an attempt to control, probe and belittle. Help your husband understand what you want by stating clearly, I need empathy, which means that you just need to say Im sorry you are in pain. Or, say, I need advice. Men love to be in the role of rescuer.